I’ve written ‘round these parts about how many times I have tried and failed to read Pride and Prejudice, and finally my mom was like “oh for Christ’s sake, just see the movie”, and at her suggestion we sat down last Christmas (well: last last Christmas – Christmas 2011) to watch the Keira Knightly version.
It was fine. Good story. Kind of a ripoff of Bridget Jones’ Diary, if you ask me, but still pretty good (…that’s a joke, you guys.) But here’s my thing: the message in this story is totally whacked. My main take-away (and, again: haven’t read the book, only saw the movie and not the “real” movie with Colin Firth which is apparently the be all end all of things that are good in this world but rather saw the fake, other one) is that this girl goes out of her way to dismiss and be rude to this guy and he gets over it and loves her anyway because she is just that awesome.
You guys. That’s not a good lesson. That’s not a good lesson at all. I once heard the advice “if you want to be loved, be lovable” and like: yeah. That. Most of us cannot expect our wonderfulness to shine through for all the Darcys to see if we’re actively going out of our way to be horrible. Don’t do that. Don’t be horrible and expect people to love you anyway. It might have worked with Mr. Darcy but he’s taken, and also dead. Be lovable to those you want to love you.